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Once we’re drawn in deep enough, another side appears. Denying those that were screaming at me that this relationship was no good for me. (I’ve created a whole new category for them on here). He’d suggest I wear different clothes, or that he didn’t like my friends. I was seeing only the things that confirmed my dream of a wonderful life with him. My ‘baby girl’ can be beautiful in a loving relationship. Patty Blue Hayes, an author and life coach specializing in heartbreak recovering, told Daily Mail Online that if 'your partner falls into the category of an emotional manipulator, it is likely you may have some limiting beliefs about your self-worth'.Patty advised that you should listen to affirmations when you are getting ready, out for a walk or traveling to work because they will start to have a positive effect on your understanding that you are deserving of respect.For example, an emotional manipulator may know that you are feeling self-conscious about gaining a few pounds, yet instead of being supportive, they will call you out for having a third slice of pizza when you are hanging out with your friends.Beatty pointed out that women who grew up in a home where their families put them down grow used to this kind of dynamic, which is why we need to educate ourselves on what is really okay and what is not. The psychotherapist, who is all about 'personal responsibility', asked: 'If you are in a social and situation and your partner is making these snide remarks, my question is what are you going to to do about it?Patty Blue Hayes, an author and life coach specializing in heartbreak recovering, wrote in an article for Your Tango that 'their calm demeanor and your heightened emotion or sensitivity may trick you into doubting yourself'.An emotional manipulator will never apologize; instead, they will blame you and make you start to doubt your emotions.
On the flip side, an emotional manipulator who refuses to communicate their needs will get angry when you don't meet them, leaving you constantly waiting for them to get upset about something you've unknowingly failed to do.Emotional manipulators have a knack for knowing when you are ready to give up and leave them.At this point, when you are close to walking away, they will charm you and offer things that vaguely sounds like apologies, but chances are, once you get back into the groove of your relationship, they will starting going back to their old ways. They promise you a wonderful life of marriage, babies and growing old together. When we are lacking self-esteem and vulnerable, this is music to our ears. Narcissists instinctively spot our weakness and are experts at filling it with words they know we want to hear. Here’s another one: watch not what they say, but what they do. You show someone you love them by treating them as loveable. And another mantra: if it sounds to good to be true, it usually is.